IT’S ALL ABOUT MEN AND WOMEN – PART I [Copyrights belong to Rosalind; Any unethical usage of this article is strictly condemned]
THEORY 1 – There is no Existing Platonic Relationship Between Men and Women.
The Platonic Relationship possible between men and women?
This topic most often seen in many Psychological notes is still proving tricky. Psychologists who specialize in Human Behavior have attempted to prove either ways.
Please go ahead and read to see what do I have to tell about this most assorted theory.
Can a platonic relationship happen between men and women?
For this we need to analyze and understand what is Platonic Relationship
What is Platonic Relationship?
Platonic Relationship is spiritually defined as a Non-Physical relationship that can exist within a Man – Woman Relationship. Considering “same-sex” relationships eventually taking its equal hands it is always safe to redefine the spiritually defined definition for Platonic Relationship as a Non-Physical Relationship that can exist among human beings in common.
Now lets not get deep into Platonic Relationship between the “same sex”, the only reason being that I am not that interested in talking or understanding about the “same-sex” relationships, its definition and their emotions. I simply believe in having my hands clean.
So off to the topic Platonic Relationship between Men and Women.
Platonic Relationship -Man &Woman
This is a traditional topic which has seen umpteen numbers of psychologists writing theory about.
The Old theory is that Men and women can't be real friends. Blame the sexual tension that almost inevitably exists between any red-blooded, heterosexual man and woman. Agreeable? Now let us consider what the modern psychologist has to say about this.
The Modern Theory It states, "The belief that men and women can't be friends comes from another era in which women were at home and men were in the workplace, and the only way they could get together was for romance," explained Linda Sapadin, a psychologist in Valley Stream, New York. "Now they work together and share sports interests and socialize together." This cultural shift has encouraged psychologists, sociologists and communications experts to put forth a new message: Though it may be tricky, men and women can successfully become close friends.
Now let me point out, how many of you will mentally raise hands if I were to ask a question that this above Platonic Relationship between men and women are intimate. I hope to get a decent crowd which can speak their mind. In that case am very well aware of the answer. For the benefit of others let me mention it , the answer is NO, they cannot maintain a intimate relationship.
Like the modern psychologist point out since there is a cultural shift, men and women meet at work place or any other social gathering can have platonic relationship. Let alone social gathering since most of the working mass attend the above mentioned social gathering. So let us discuss more about the relationships that can generally prevail at work place. It’s agreeable that most of us don’t have real intimate friends at work place reason being that the work place is more professional and that friendship in a professional place is miles away. On the other hand Cross-Sex colleagues may actually discuss, talk, laugh and sport together. But that doesn’t mean in any way that here exists an intimate relationship let alone the physical attraction. I feel a man-woman relationship keeps going because of the sexual tension between them. Its acceptable to find good companions but they are not close enough to apply this “Platonic Relationship” theory. If you can find out individuals who can speak their mind [which is tough though] everyone will agree to the theory that “its not possible to maintain a platonic relationship between men and women” like the same sex does. This results in no controversies and opposing theories and thereby will pave way for psychologists to discuss on more sensible topics.
Survey
Let us take a survey which I recently noticed in a psychology related site [http://psychologytoday.com/articles/index.php?term=pto-20010901-000031&page=4]
The first question is
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Do you believe men and women can be platonic friends?
Yes: 83%
No: 11%
Unsure: 6%
Now the next question is tricky.
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Have you had a platonic relationship that crossed the line and turned out to be a romantic and sexual relationship?
The answer is
Yes - 62%
No – 36%
Unsure – 2%
Irony Irony! Let us consider this 62% of the second question is the crowd who say that their platonic relationship turned out to be a romantic one. This is the common crowd which belongs to the 83% of the first question who said they believe in the existence of Platonic Relationship. The important aspect which is generally forgotten here is the crowd only BELIEVES that Platonic relationship exists somewhere and that it did not exist in their lives and but still its there existing within some XYZ individuals. So it’s only a superficial belief that I would categorize as “Assumption” Now we all know that Assumptions cannot give a positive hand in psychology. So let us ignore it.
Statistics
For a researcher who has conducted this survey is aware that he has chosen these individuals randomly and that it contributes to the whole mass in the crowd. So the conclusion is,62% attributed to the second question had contradicted themselves and 25% of them did not speak their mind. Am I a Prejudice? I would say NO. Lets take a close look at this statistics. The common crowd who believed in Platonic Relationship and claim that their platonic Relationship did not get converted to any romantic relationship are negligible. Being a Statistics graduate myself am aware that any result has an error and that 2% is a agreeable error. So this 25% is a 2% of the whole survey which I will comfortably neglect. After all they did not speak their mind, did they?
If you had thoroughly read the survey in the above mentioned website you will keep noticing questions that are tricky and the answers in turn representing the crowd are contradictory. See question number 4, 5 etc…
The End Word
Traditionally I conclude that the existence of Platonic Relationship between Men and Women exists in ones own Imaginary world and not in Reality. I welcome suggestions and critics on this above mentioned theory. .
Footnote
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